Has your manager ever lied about you?

Boss lied to me about how much others earn [closed]

During the negotiations, my boss tried to make the situation sound better by explaining that I was paid more than the other interns and that the company was short of cash and had to come out of his own pocket for a raise.

I'm not so upset that I didn't get the raise

I've just had a lot of distrust since my boss lied

[Shall I] confront him?

I would strongly recommend that you do not do this. Business confrontational meetings with people you need to continue working with after meeting should only be held as a last resort as they are designed to break the relationship in hopes of making them a better one.

If, as you seem to suspect, the current relationship is acceptable to you and you need to continue working with him, then such a drastic measure is not necessary, especially when other resolutions are available.

What should I do in this situation?

Learn from it first. This is a great opportunity to learn how to work with liars and those with unethical business standards. The reality is that he may not even view this as a lie, but rather as a simple negotiating tactic. The ethical basis on which the two of you operate can be so different that when confronted, it's more about semantics than the problem - your salary. So find out how to deal with him and find out what he knows and does, what you can potentially apply in your business practices that are not against your principles.

Second, renegotiate. A few weeks after the move, resume negotiations and mentally reposition yourself to do so. Realize that you have little to lose - all he can do is say no, and he is very unlikely to fire you. While you don't need the money, there are a few things you need to learn about the business - you now have more knowledge than you last negotiated, and you may now be in a better position to get the raise without calling him out on his lies.

It's been a couple of weeks since we moved, business is doing well and I am noticing that the cost of living here is different than at the old location. I love to work here and want to keep going, so I made the leap after you rejected my last raise request, but I want to go over the raise again now that we are here, everything is settled and I better understand how if this changes on site, it affects my situation. I want an increase to $ xx.

Now that you've moved, he's less likely to give you a raise, as you've already shown you are willing to put up with a lot of the inconvenience to stay with the company, but you already know him You are still cheaper than the other interns, and as long as your work is of equal value he would be a bad businessman if he shot you. However, you have to be ready to go. The "I enjoy working here and want to keep going" is an implicit "I'll leave if you don't meet my needs" and he won't respond positively if he thinks you are stuck and won't leave.

Spend some time looking at the job market and gain confidence that you can easily find another job first, and you will have the confidence necessary to have this discussion without discomfort. Notice how I put it in such a way that there is no lie - you don't need the increase and you just pointed out that the cost of living is different, no better or worse, but it may push you to increase your personal finances discuss to make his case that you don't need more money.

Resist the discussion of your personal finances, cost of living, etc. Just hold on and know that the other interns get so much and don't have to live any differently and don't have to justify their needs.

I am not going to talk about my personal finances, I am trying to keep this on a professional level so please stop asking me about my rent etc.

If he pushes, you could mention your desire to visit family occasionally, which involves travel - in other words, you specifically want to mention the things that cost more because you moved because of the job - but that's not necessary or useful and you shouldn't include him in your personal finances, but it can redirect him if he continues to press for details.

Maybe he will refuse. Go back a few months later and try to negotiate again. Every time you don't get the increase, you get experience. Furthermore, chances are good that the more you ask, as long as you're not obnoxious, the more he'll give in at some point. The only downside is that he may not give you a good recommendation if you ask too often, or he may specifically mention this to prospective employers when they call him. Not the worst attribute in the world, but it would be negative to have said something about you.


+1 for the renegotiation bit. In any future negotiation, keep your knowledge of his dishonesty in mind, and you might even try to renegotiate your salary if you know the truth now - even if you don't bring that fact up straight.