Do you love your parents equally Why?


  1. 24.02.2016, 13:47#1
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    Father has another wife

    I just don't know what to do now !!!
    A good week ago my mother, brother and I found out that my father had had another wife for a few months, with whom he regularly spent evenings and even weekends. Of course there was an argument and he has now gone away for the weekend. Still, my parents want to try again and my mother gives it a chance.
    Now I just happened to read messages from IHR on his cell phone that make it clear that there is much more and that they have not broken off contact. That means he lied to us again coldly!
    Tomorrow is my birthday, the whole family is coming and it should be a nice day! On Friday he wanted to go away again so that my parents could finally know what they want. But my mother is now firmly expecting that he will want to come back to us afterwards.
    What should I do now!? Should I tell her everything !?

  2. 24.02.2016, 15:54#2

    Ha ... Loooo,

    As much as it is to be understood, after you probably love both parents equally, that you don't want to hurt anyone if possible, they have already done it to each other themselves - each for his own share, because somewhere the abandoned and betrayed also has somewhere Partner a share of complicity.

    Who do you think you could help if you kept the information you got to yourself ...?
    Do you think - after even the (here: adversaries) could not say who the "guilty one" would be now - you could even remotely reasonably "fairly" assess from whom damage would have to be prevented in this way so that on At the end of a hopeful reflection and reconciliation ...?

    And even as far as lying is concerned (quote: "... so he lied to us again as ice cold!"), It is always difficult to say whether it would be "again" after a web of lies so from now on you can escape by assuring future sincerity. More clearly: Sometimes it takes a kind of "sneaking out" with "succession lies" gradually coming closer to the truth.

    So just tell your mother openly what would most likely come to light anyway.
    ... and then at least it could be that it would also turn out that you had always known ...

    Your grief should be great enough. Then she doesn't need additional doubts about others.
    I wish I could find a gold ribbon ...
    I wore it in my hair
    As a sign that I resisted.
    Not taken in your own hands
    My life, which runs like sand
    Through all the fingers of my hand
    So I stand at the edge of the grave
    Very poor only the garment,
    And actually quite a shame
    But at least I found this bond.

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  6. 25.02.2016, 22:23#5
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    I'm 17!
    My father is going away for the weekend now, and of course my mother is still hoping for an improvement!
    But somehow I always get angry when I see my father! Because I keep thinking that he still has the other wife!
    But when I say it, it really is over for good!

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  10. 26.02.2016, 08:38#8

    Quote by Loooo
    ... found out that my father has had another wife for a few months, with whom he regularly spent evenings and even weekends.

    Still, my parents want to try again, and mine Mother gives him a chance.

    On Friday he wanted to go away again so that my parents could finally know what they want. But my mother is now firmly expecting that he will want to come back to us afterwards.
    Quote by Loooo
    My father is going away for the weekend now, and of course my mother is still hoping for an improvement!
    Hello looo,

    I'm sorry for you, but you won't be able to change it. It has nothing to do with you, it is a matter between your parents. You shouldn't interfere with that. Your father remains your father, no matter which woman is by his side.

    I have problems understanding. What kind of relationship do your parents have with each other if he is regularly away in the evenings and on weekends? It happens that you go out in the evening, of course. I usually know who my wife is with or she knows who I am with. It never really happens that we are not together on weekends. Maybe by the hour for sports or sometimes separately on birthdays, etc. but I don't know how to spend regularly anywhere else.

    Your mother gives him a chance? She has to be careful that it is not interpreted as: "You can do what you want, I'll wait for you." Because then there is absolutely no reason for him to give it up. And he got the chance, and is the weekend gone now? Doesn't that mean: chance lost !?

    You don't know the other woman, just the news you've seen. Does the other one know that your father has a family? Since he seems to have time on the weekend ... it could be that he tells her that he is out during the week, has no time ... and nothing else. Because then the other will be cheated too!
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