Too much trust is arrogance

Confidence - too much, too little, or just right

Category: Notes Psychology

Tags: Arrogance, modesty, lack of self-confidence, failures, victim role, self-confidence, self-view, self-confidence, arrogance, causes, trust

In order to understand exactly what is meant by self-confidence and why too much or too little of it is bad, one must first understand the word neighbor self-confidence. To be aware of yourself, i.e. to know what you can and what you can't or who you are - that is the first step before you can have a certain self-confidence. Because trust grows out of awareness. How can you develop a 'healthy' level of self-confidence?


Actually, this word means in the absolute sense the person we see when we look at ourselves. If this 'look' is as objective as possible, then a realistic 'self-view' can also lead to an appropriate level of self-confidence. However, if the self-assessment is rather subjective, then our self-confidence can be seriously disturbed.


It is optimal if you do not allow your own worth to be influenced by the behavior or reactions of others. In this way you can gain a certain amount of security and stability by yourself. Having adequate or balanced self-confidence means valuing yourself and loving your life.

Lack of self-confidence

People with insufficient self-confidence can all too easily fall into a certain 'victim role'. Some studies even show that a lack of self-confidence increases the risk of depression and anxiety disorders. Possible consequences are also eating disorders in the form of anorexia or obesity, professional failures, relationship problems and alcohol abuse or drug abuse.

Failures in the past are often to blame. Fear dominates all too quickly and the person concerned lacks the courage. That ties up a lot of energy. What remains is the (false) conviction: "I can do nothing", "I am nothing", "I always do everything wrong".

Modesty is not thanked

The fact is, humble people are much easier to deal with than braggers. The downside nowadays, however, is that a humble person is not automatically listened to. This could also give the impression that “I am unimportant” or “Nobody is listening to me anyway”. Arrogance and arrogance, on the other hand, nowadays quickly lead to the result that someone simply 'makes himself heard'.

So self-confidence must never be confused with egoism. Because self-confidence does not prevail at the expense of others and does not want to triumph over others through a dominant appearance.


Psychologists see how much esteem and social acceptance a person has been given as a decisive factor. To a certain extent, genes dictate where a person is going. However, the parental home, as well as experiences in elementary school, during puberty and in the first few years of employment have significantly more influence.

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